 Christian Weddings and Marriage Support
Thinking of getting married in St Giles’ or St George's?
We warmly welcome all couples who are enquiring about getting married in the Parish of Ashtead.
Couples are entitled to marry in the Parish if one party or both parties can demonstrate a qualifying connection
- Bride or groom was baptised in the Parish
- Bride or groom was confirmed in the Parish
- Bride, groom or parent has at any time resided in the Parish for at least 6 months
- Bride, groom or parent has at any time habitually attended public worship in the Parish for at least six months
- A parent or grandparent was married in the Parish
 The journey to your wedding day
Each couple will be given an appointment with the clergy. Couples are required to bring evidence of the qualifying connection, their passports and birth certificates. The clergy will confirm their provisional wedding booking and give the couple a wedding pack containing information and contact details.
Marriage preparation is a requirement and is provided in the form of a course with other couples usually held on two consecutive Saturday mornings. It is designed to help couples develop strong foundations for a lasting marriage, it is practical and good fun!
Three months before the wedding, couples meet with the Rector’s Clerk denise.newman@ashetadparish.org to go through legal matters including arranging banns or licence procedures.
8 weeks before the special day couples meet with the person who will marry them to plan the service.
Wedding rehearsal times will be confirmed but are usually at 6pm on the Thursday before the service.
 Wedding fees
The statutory wedding fee is £321.50 (2011) which does not include any optional extras eg. organist.
Optional extras
The wedding pack contains example music choices and our choir master is happy to loan sample CDs. If you would like a small choir, large choir or a worship band please contact parish.office@ashteadparish.org and note there are additional charges .
St. Giles’ Church has a well maintained bell tower and enthusiastic teams of bell ringers who, if given enough notice, can be booked to ring for weddings.
Remarriage after divorce
It is possible to remarry after divorce in certain circumstances. A meeting with two members of the clergy can be arranged to discuss couples personal circumstances.
Marriage with children
We are happy to marry couples who already have children and, if appropriate, the children can be involved in the service.
 The Marriage Course for married couples
A seven session course set in a romantic atmosphere. Dessert is served at a candlelit table for two whilst listening to practical talks, from a DVD, that are informative and fun.
There is never any group work and no one is asked to share anything about their relationship with anyone other than their partner.
Over the sessions couples will discover practical tools to help them:
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> understand each other’s needs
> communicate more effectively
> grow closer through resolving conflict
> heal the ways you’ve hurt each other
> recognise how your upbringing affects your relationship
> improve relationships with parents and in-laws
develop greater sexual intimacy
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